"When men and women take personality tests, some of the old Mars-Venus stereotypes keep reappearing. On average, women are more cooperative, nurturing, cautious and emotionally responsive. Men tend to be more competitive, assertive, reckless and emotionally flat."
Read more of this article here.
Yesterday, I was not emotionally responsive. Instead, uncharacteristic of my gender, I was assertive and emotionally flat. After not knowing how to say no to a request to do a funeral for a non-church member I met with the husband and wife, (wife's dad died) to discuss the 'service'. As the hostess/planner of this affair started talking about how she's going to put the food over here...and then you can speak for about ten minutes over here , etc... I very politely lost my cool. I asked why it was important for me to be present at this event?? Since this was not taking place in my church or not in their home church because they stopped attending their home church a couple of years ago. My question could be summed up as: Was I an accessory to this "reception" or were they interested in hearing a witness to the resurrection?
When I was an intern at a church, the senior pastor would tell me how much he hated doing weddings because he felt so used and that it blew his whole weekend. I thought he was missing an evangelism opportunity. So - in five years of ministry I never said no to any weddings or funerals. I can't recall being aware of these events bringing anyone back to the church. Now I'm burning out on them.
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